BUILDING BLOCKS TO A POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE SELF-ESTEEM (session 2 & 3)

  1. CRITICISM

We are most often our own worst critics. When we have a low sense of self-worth we feel that nothing we ever do is right, good enough or pleasing for others. If we sing we feel we are off tune; if we socialize and laugh at a joke we feel we laughed to loud; when we get brave enough to do a task such as bake cookies for another person, we claim we are bad at cooking and predict the cookies will be terrible.  We devalue our talents, and actions and what we produce. We self-doubt, and negatively predict negative criticism so that when it comes to us, we are in some way hurt less. Which never is the case, for most certainly someone will fulfill our self-damming prophecies resulting in inner pain and another broken block in our self- esteem wall.

Criticisms or perceived criticism causes great inner pain, feelings of being stabbed in the back, betrayed, let down, depleted of joyful feelings or experiences, down cast, sadden and even brought low to depressive feelings.

** What is one of the earliest criticisms that you can remember and whom did it come from?

** What is the result of this criticism?

** Did you in anyway allow the criticism to affect your life, goals, hopes or dreams?

** What message did you get that you have believed about yourself from this criticism early in your life?

** Have you ever challenged this criticism in your life, if so how and what is the result?

**Have you had a recent negative experience of criticism, if so how has it affected you recently?